Sometime a single moment teaches you what the years of life’s experiences fails to convey….
As the auto moved from the lanes of the Inderlok metro station to the jamming traffic, I saw a mass of people carrying their loved one through the last walk of the life literally. Adorned in the color of peace, engulfed in the mourning, one of them accidentally, stepped in the traffic head on. He was instantly harassed by a shearing horn from a man on the scooter who seemed to be in too much of a hurry. The incident stamped on to my mind and every time I happened to pass that place on that very road it happened to replay.
It stuck me then.........
We as humans in our lives experience every emotion. Love, hurt, possession, obsession, hatred and many more yet we fail to acknowledge them when we see the same shades in others. We all experience love. We all instinctively know that love can not be chopped yet the first thing we tell a friend with a broken heart is ‘get over it’ when we ourselves can not mend the burning wound created a life time back.
The guy on the scooter wasn’t insensitive to the feelings of attachment rather he was handicapped when he had to relate them with a stranger. The friend, who hopelessly tries to convince the other that somehow he has been misled, is blinded by the care and concern that he happens to forget that his friend is as much of a bone and flesh as he himself is. These reactions are triggered neither by the thoughtlessness nor by the lack of time and concern for others, as per me the roots of the problems are deeper and more subtle.
We as humans are parochial in our mind frame to an extent that every ‘emotion’ we experience is dependent on the people we share them with. We experience, share, feel every emotion yet we fail to register and save it in our hearts without our own faces. We fail to give our feelings an independent identity so much so that we are paralyzed when we have to project them on a stranger. Our life is engrossed in our affairs to a degree that there is absolutely no room for a stranger.
And it is thanks to this ‘thinking’ of ours that there is this unconquerable wall between us and our strangers. It is this very seed that prevents us from feeling the needs of the other people, that triggers insensitivity in our thoughtlessness and it is also that same feeling of ‘nuclearity’ that makes us say our own friends and family ‘YOU WON’T UNDERSTAND!!’
PS: Live every experience life throws on you and while booking it into your memory remember to detach yourself from it so that you could relate it with every one around you and hence touch every soul. And learn to unclose your self for a few around you for they face and experience the same thing, as, though life has varied shades but it unfailingly colors each person’s life some time or the other.
5 comments:
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i feel that raw emotion is somewhat overrated and its not smart to give too much importance to it willfully.
life is a whole lot simpler and manageable if emotions are considered "phenomena" - obervations - rather than something sacred to "oneself"
its better in my opinion to investigate emotion clearly and openly, irrespective of it being "my" emotion or "another" 's
Ah..Life is that much more simple if we treat it as complicated.."Trying" to make it simple always leads to the contrary..Emotions are something that cannot be generically categorized into a certain set of actions to take on a particular one..each one requires a different path, a different thinking, sometimes it requires us to acknowledge the pain of the others, sometimes it's necessary to knowingly dismiss it and force a solution down their throat even though it might have been difficult to adopt for oneself..In short, there is no short explanation..
Indeed quite commendable thoughts and path suggested.Failing to see same shade of emotions can be related to degree of insensitivity a person possess. I think different kind of emotions are generated when different thresholds are crossed and one threshold can lead to intensifying of one and supressing of counter emotions (any proportion depending on condition). Now guess what may happen if multiple thresholds are crossed. Element of randomness or unknown balances comes into play. Its like a multidimensional equilibrium where different concentrations/conditions can lead to different outcomes in different proportions. Whereas timely acknowledgement can be of the most "Intense (may be transient)" & "Naturally favourable" ones. The scooter guy might have felt hate, frustration, fear,anxiety, guilt,care, pity (descending order of intensity)etc all together and where we dont know whether before this encounter he was driving devoid of emotions? It may so happen that, depending on the pesons degree of sensitivity, when he muses over later other emotions get intensified. I think everything has some Natural significance attached to it. It may come naturally to a scooter guy (may be anyone) to express hate or frustration in such an incident. Consider the dialectic that he would have given a hug (without a tinge of sarcasm) expressing love and praised him for pedestrian's deed (Assuming the pedestrian is devoid of his natural instincts and feels them genuine). What could have been the result. We can see pedestrians all over the road and people giving hugs and praising them!! :D... Its about an unknown (Rather natural) balance which comes to play and results in "Naturally favorable" event resulting in careful pedestrians. Take example of heartbroken friend. Our friend and We both know its like a book in which we can't add pages nor tear apart'em or strike off whats been written. Not emphasizing above which is indeed a truth should not be considered lack of ability to empathize but its like more favourable emotion (which may not seem intense!, where brain comes into the picture) takes over. I think the degree of sensitivity is unique to a person and just like every other thing around it is random and nature creates a balance of people with different sensitivities. Though people can always strive towards changing themselves for example by the way you suggested or by "pondering" ... doing their bit.. Though the nature or randomness tries to keep a balance... but then balances ARE transient leading to newer balances!.
Hey, Waiting for your next blog post.
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